Well Dee it looks like you don't really like it there's two ways out of it Quit or learn how to enjoy it

I did that for now more than 30 years as an amateur (around 400 gigs) ans still enjoy it as much as my first concerts in a small youth organisation hall. I met my wife in my firs real gig opening for a french singer in 1981 and we're still married

One thing is Spudmann is just trying to say that you want to share the music with the audience, sometimes it's maybe with only 3 or 4 people the others are too drunk or too bored never mind keep your focus on the ones who love the music

If it's a noisy place two ways of dealing with it, play as low as you can and sing outside of the mic that might force the respect of the audience and getting their attention. Other possibility is to play louder and use your more groovy numbers trying to put people in the mood for dancing and having a party

If you get bored before the show just take your guitar in the dressing room or a quiet place and play it nothing better than training and warming up

Money is not the whole thing you have to love what you do and play as intensely for 2 or or for 200 people and believe me it's possible and you'll love it !

I might sound a bit too paternalistic but I just want to share experience with you