Personal note. Dad is Sick.

**oldguy** · April 30th, 2011, 07:08 PM

Steve,

Our thoughts and prayers are with you and all your family.
My Dad is a Korean war veteran, he'll be 82 in September.
I just saw this thread today, I will be praying for your Dad, and I think you playing for him is wonderful. I do that for my Dad when he's down, since Mom's been in the nursing home after her stroke.
We all need to let our loved know how much they mean to us.

otaypanky*** · May 1st, 2011, 12:05 PM

Hang in there, both of you ~

kidsmoke* · May 1st, 2011, 12:06 PM

Originally Posted by oldguy

Steve,

Our thoughts and prayers are with you and all your family.

We all need to let our loved know how much they mean to us.

I'll enthusiastically endorse all of this. Says a lot about your Dad that dropping everything and going to be with him, with guitar in hand, is your kneejerk reaction when things get tough. Seems he did a pretty good job raising his kids.

keep us posted, Steve.

**t_ross33** · May 1st, 2011, 01:21 PM

Thoughts and prayers going out to you and your family, SVL.

**MAXIFUNK** · May 1st, 2011, 02:10 PM

I hope your Dad gets well.

**street music** · May 1st, 2011, 08:32 PM

Steve, I hope your Dad can be without pain with his cancer, I know what you are facing as I lost my Dad to bone cancer which did go to his spine. It great that you are playing for him and spend every minute you can with him.

**poodlesrule** · May 2nd, 2011, 11:50 AM

I just read this thread a few minutes ago, as I was away from the forum for a while.
My thoughts are with Steve and family.

SVL, I hope your dad improves, and does not have too much trouble with therapy.
It is great fro you two to have the music connection!

Does he have friends who could visit him?
Grandchildren can visit?
Sometimes folks shy away from people when they get sick, unfortunately.

**Blaze** · May 3rd, 2011, 01:45 PM

Be strong Steve , music coming from the soul is always a good comfort for those who suffer ..

Sending Mojo and hope he gets well ..

**Pickngrin** · May 3rd, 2011, 08:49 PM

So sorry to hear about your dad, Steve. It sounds like you are of much comfort to him.
Be well.

**sunvalleylaw** · May 3rd, 2011, 10:05 PM

Thank you so much everyone. I really appreciate the support. It really makes a difference.

It was a rough weekend. Dad finished his radiation (for now) on Thursday, and the radiation and pain drugs etc. were really making it tough on him. Without going through all the details, we got through the weekend, and things are hopefully at this point starting to look up a little after a very rough and low point type of weekend.

They do have lots of friends and a good support system for when he can get back home.

On the positive side, he really did enjoy a little guitar and companionship. I was really glad I went for the visit. One step at a time at this point. Thanks for your support, love, prayers and encouragement. Really, . . . thanks.

**Brian Krashpad** · May 4th, 2011, 01:17 PM

Steve, sorry I missed this til now. As others have said, this isn't just a place we talk about guitars, certainly people have seen more of my stuff here than they probably wanted to! So, especially when it's something serious like this, don't hesitate.

At this point I well know how radiation can take things out of a person, as well as dealing with pain meds. Plus my dad is retired Navy too, so I can relate on multiple levels. Take care, prayers for and mojo to you and all concerned.

Also, if anyone ever needs info or just support as a result of dealing with cancer, I highly recommend the American Cancer Society's "Cancer Survivor Network," which is for not only peeps with C but also caregivers/loved ones:

http://csn.cancer.org/

The site has DOZENS of forums, divided up into various different types of C (for example, I read/post in "head & neck cancer" from time to time), where you can talk to others going through (or who already have gone through) similar experiences. A lot of good info and good mojo there.

otaypanky*** · May 10th, 2011, 07:05 AM

Originally Posted by Brian Krashpad

Steve, sorry I missed this til now. As others have said, this isn't just a place we talk about guitars, certainly people have seen more of my stuff here than they probably wanted to! So, especially when it's something serious like this, don't hesitate.

You're absolutely right Brian. Although many of the people I know here I know only by username and writing style I feel as though they are friends none the less. We share the little things like new guitars or gear and call them good days. It's only natural to share the real life stuff too ~

**sunvalleylaw** · May 10th, 2011, 12:13 PM

Thanks you guys. Brian, I will check out those resources. It is a long road for all involved. He is beginning to improve, but really got nuked, and unfortunately experienced worse than normal collateral damage to his duodenem (sp?) which has hampered his eating. Yesterday, he was finally able to eat solid food after having to be on iv nutrition for a bit, after he had to be re-admitted to the hospital during my visit weekend before last.

He is stable enough again that the oncologist is wanting to get some better answers on the origin of the sarcoma, which even Mayo clinic has not been able to figure out so far by the biopsies to this point. So more biopsies. A PET scan had to be put off for a while due to his being hospitalized, but I think they will get that scheduled again too. On the positive side, the radiation decreased his spine pain enough so that he is off the morphine completely at this point.

The visit was good in the sense that I got to spend some time, play him some songs, and be there when I was needed. Kind of hard being back over here and not able to just drop in and check on things.

Thanks again everyone for the continued support.

**msteeln** · May 10th, 2011, 12:21 PM

Glad to hear of some improvement, all the best in this battle.

**Brian Krashpad** · May 11th, 2011, 10:00 AM

Yes, continued prayers and mojo. Keep us posted.

**sunvalleylaw** · July 15th, 2011, 04:05 PM

Hi friends. I had not posted in this thread in a while as the additional news we received was that he was definitely terminal and there was not much to say. Well, Dad passed away just a little while ago. It was peaceful and without trauma. It had become a struggle for him to live, and we did not think he had long. But he was trying to hold out for our annual family visit. I had been back to see him over the last couple months, and we had left nothing unsaid. I will miss him.

Now, I am going to clean my desk, see about getting some extensions on some briefs, and get ready to travel home. Thank you all for your support.

Steve

**Katastrophe** · July 15th, 2011, 04:09 PM

Prayers sent for comfort, for you and your family, Steve. I am sorry for your loss.

May your dad rest in peace.

**Lev** · July 15th, 2011, 04:33 PM

Steve, my deepest sympathy to you and your family.

**warren0728** · July 15th, 2011, 04:35 PM

condolences and mojo steve....

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