There is no logical reason why you can't comfortably play both acoustics and electrics comfortablty. I have a dread with typically small frets, and 2 electrics with medium-jumbo fret. The action of all 3 is not all that different; just a bit higher on the dread. Three quite different guitars, different neck profiles and nut width, yet they're all nicely playable. Check out some basic setup info and instruction website, like
http://www.fretnotguitarrepair.com/r...tar/action.php and see if you can possibly identify the causes of your problems. Then talk to us some more.